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When I am nothing else I am two things: outgoing and fun. (This may sound as though I am gassing myself up but, as you all know, every good quality is a double edged sword. Constantly craving social interaction means I run myself ragged and fun can also be called deeply unserious or trivial.) All of that to say, I love parties! And now that I have space (sort of?) and the personal freedom to do as I wish, I am on a bit of a party spree. I’m hosting a very belated housewarming at my apartment soon and a very large-scale 33rd birthday party for myself in January—which feels far away but is coming very quickly. Below I have compiled a list of some hosting tips. Happy holidays and please throw a party! And feel free to invite me! I love parties!
Hannah Stella’s Semi-Complete List of Hosting Tips
When inviting guests, err on the side of the more the merrier
Dinner parties and certain venues can only accommodate so many people, of course but the point of a party versus other social events is mingling and meeting new people. I find that unless the intention is intimacy, a larger group is more fun! More new friends and much easier for guests to avoid conversations with fellow attendees if need be. If I’m hosting something with relatively unlimited capacity, I always invite my friends to bring their friends..
Have an interactive activity but avoid games that require the whole group
People love a conversation starter and a distraction from an awkward lull in conversation. I find, however, that party games requiring whole group participation can disrupt the flow of a great function. I try to have a few activities available other than mingling or dancing. In the past I’ve had tarot card readers, temporary tattoos, photobooths, trivia card games, cookie decorating, and DIY flower arrangements.
Better too much than too little
In terms of food and drinks especially. Better to send guests home with leftover than to leave them hungry or thirsty. Try to have non-alcoholic options available as well.
Parties are for guests not hosts
With every detail, try to consider what most of your friends and family will enjoy rather than your favorite things. A gracious hosts maximizes fun and entertainment for guests rather than focusing on their preferences.
Small details are fun
Flowers, custom napkins, match boxes, personalized thank you cards. People notice and appreciate little details- they’re relaxing.
Converse with guests; introduce them to each other
I try to avoid—particularly as guests are arriving—getting into a long conversation with a friend I have not seen in a while or laughing at inside jokes with my closest friends. Instead, I try to greet everyone and introduce friends who may not know each other. “Sarah’s family also skis” things like that—conversation topics.
Send an invitation that sets the tone
It’s okay to be fun, irreverent, and silly. Paperless post or a text blast is completely fine but I try to write something that puts people in the mood to have fun!
Plan before then let go of the stress
Once the guests arrive, the party has started. Forget small details and relax into the fun! Joy is contagious.
I love you,
Hannah Stella