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Jeff Ganger's avatar

I agree—and will argue—that actions are more important and instructive of behavior than words. It's the one true "tell" that people give off.

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Hannah Stella's avatar

Agreed! Louder than words!

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Ashley Moore's avatar

Bless this post. Agree with you 100% and I really think this will resonate with many women here.

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Hannah Stella's avatar

Thank you, Ashley!

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Lucy's avatar

I love your perspective.

In the past I have seen men acting that way (like they love you and want a relationship, but are sleeping w other people) not as a betrayal, but just as a sign that they do not care about the relationship like I do and we are not compatible. But it was always painful and I wish that I hadn’t accepted it so easily.

With my current boyfriend, we both immediately stopped seeing other people after our first date, because we liked each other so much that we stopped having interest in other people. We didn’t tell each other this until a couple weeks later, but it felt so good to be on the same page! This should 100% be the norm for anyone interested in monogamy.

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Amanda's avatar

So relatable and well said. At the time that I was in a situation like that, I wish I had reacted differently - but he was definitely not the man for me! Haha. The agony! Love all your content and your longer form here.

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Rachel's avatar

The inequality is worth diving into deeper. When the actions don’t match the words and vice versa. I feel that’s so much more common than seeing consistency of both.

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Emily J's avatar

So true and well said! Thanks for articulating these thoughts—sometimes the way current society operates feels so backward to me!

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