I don't think you "owe" anyone anything. It's 1000% normal and actually a great positive influence to have you take boundaries and show respect to those in your life. You will always have critics but I believe we follow your page because we value your thoughts and respect your perspective on life- which includes how you choose to not share everything. Appreciate you!
IMO even though you share a lot personally, you have always made it very clear that your relationships are private. Those that criticize you for this do not respect boundaries.
Hi! I’ve been following your tik tok for a LONG time and I’m so excited to be a Substack subbie.
I had an epiphany while reading this... I am attracted to the fact that you’re honest in living a life that may not be relatable in some ways. I think people want more details because they have a desire to relate. I think the truth is more people simply will not, so it’s okay not to share! We should all be so grateful for the pieces a person is willing to invite us in on.
The idea of marrying wealth is rare; being a housewife without kids is rare; later a collaborative and mutually respectful divorce is rare; and going on a sailing journey post divorce is rare.
I love that you are rare (imho)I you are the epitome of “ you wouldn’t understand” lol in a good way!!
Even if we can’t fully understand your personal life...I am so excited to continue to hear your thoughts on life, social construct, happiness, internal peace, and more!
Again congratulations on this next chapter! Xo, Sam
"gritty details of a breakup scratch a schadenfreude-adjacent itch", love this line and I think it's illustrates why you're wise in not sharing. The idea that you "owe" someone information because they chose to form a parasocial relationship to someone they don't know is comical in an unsettling kind of way. You (all content creators/writers) create media, you are not literally marketing yourself as a consumable product that people deserve access to.
For you to maintain the boundaries you set out early on seems authentic to me and not unexpected. I also think it reflects a level of respect for a relationship and a person that you clearly respected and valued. I’m a pretty nosy person in general, and I think it’s totally understandable that you wouldn’t share those details. Keep on keeping on!
I’m sorry you were in a position in which you felt a need to defend yourself. You’re very generous with your advice, time, and consideration. There are bound to be people who are more than happy to take advantage of that. I’m glad you set them straight!
I think it’s also important to note that everyone filters their life - whether a little or a lot - depending on the situation and amount of relational capital held. If you were arrested over the weekend and simply say “Oh, my weekend was fine, nothing too crazy” when talking to coworkers on Monday, is that lying? Or just....not sharing something that really doesn’t NEED to be shared? No one is entitled to an all access pass to the nitty gritty details of your existence, regardless of your job. 💜
Personal blogging comes in so many different sbapes that I think people get confused sometimes. The only real rule is that since it's your personal space you make the rules! What one person feels comfortable sharing might be something you prefer to keep to yourself. We all have different boundaries and that's fine!
I don't think you "owe" anyone anything. It's 1000% normal and actually a great positive influence to have you take boundaries and show respect to those in your life. You will always have critics but I believe we follow your page because we value your thoughts and respect your perspective on life- which includes how you choose to not share everything. Appreciate you!
Thank you, Taylor!! I really appreciate that!
IMO even though you share a lot personally, you have always made it very clear that your relationships are private. Those that criticize you for this do not respect boundaries.
Thank you!
Hi! I’ve been following your tik tok for a LONG time and I’m so excited to be a Substack subbie.
I had an epiphany while reading this... I am attracted to the fact that you’re honest in living a life that may not be relatable in some ways. I think people want more details because they have a desire to relate. I think the truth is more people simply will not, so it’s okay not to share! We should all be so grateful for the pieces a person is willing to invite us in on.
The idea of marrying wealth is rare; being a housewife without kids is rare; later a collaborative and mutually respectful divorce is rare; and going on a sailing journey post divorce is rare.
I love that you are rare (imho)I you are the epitome of “ you wouldn’t understand” lol in a good way!!
Even if we can’t fully understand your personal life...I am so excited to continue to hear your thoughts on life, social construct, happiness, internal peace, and more!
Again congratulations on this next chapter! Xo, Sam
"gritty details of a breakup scratch a schadenfreude-adjacent itch", love this line and I think it's illustrates why you're wise in not sharing. The idea that you "owe" someone information because they chose to form a parasocial relationship to someone they don't know is comical in an unsettling kind of way. You (all content creators/writers) create media, you are not literally marketing yourself as a consumable product that people deserve access to.
For you to maintain the boundaries you set out early on seems authentic to me and not unexpected. I also think it reflects a level of respect for a relationship and a person that you clearly respected and valued. I’m a pretty nosy person in general, and I think it’s totally understandable that you wouldn’t share those details. Keep on keeping on!
I’m sorry you were in a position in which you felt a need to defend yourself. You’re very generous with your advice, time, and consideration. There are bound to be people who are more than happy to take advantage of that. I’m glad you set them straight!
I think it’s also important to note that everyone filters their life - whether a little or a lot - depending on the situation and amount of relational capital held. If you were arrested over the weekend and simply say “Oh, my weekend was fine, nothing too crazy” when talking to coworkers on Monday, is that lying? Or just....not sharing something that really doesn’t NEED to be shared? No one is entitled to an all access pass to the nitty gritty details of your existence, regardless of your job. 💜
“I just think sometimes we infer perfection, get angry because we know that isn’t real, and blame someone for lying when they haven’t.”
I love this part!!! Yes!! Well said 💕
Personal blogging comes in so many different sbapes that I think people get confused sometimes. The only real rule is that since it's your personal space you make the rules! What one person feels comfortable sharing might be something you prefer to keep to yourself. We all have different boundaries and that's fine!
Really love your work 🙏